“If you’re happy, if you’re feeling good, then nothing else matters.”
Most everyone would agree that, yes, I would like to feel good about myself. Yet this can be more easily said than done. The self, after all, consists of roles, behaviors, and inner experiences. One holistic approach is to “play the role” of a person who feels good about themselves, adopting a script for that role. You can imitate specific habits of a person you know who appears to feel good about themselves.
High level wellness is an important gateway to this goal. Yet you can have all the important habits for nutrition and exercise, but in the end high-level wellness is mostly an inner experience. Striving for high-level wellness means striving to feel right in an integrated way that encompasses your actions, mind, body and spirit.
The PerfectCoaches process itself is designed to help you feel good about yourself. First, if you are using the method, that means you have a goal. Second, the process invites you to imagine coaches who accept you as you are and will work patiently as you become the person you strive to be. Third, PerfectCoaches invites you to be thankful for you, to thank your brain, your body, your breath.
PerfectCoaches is a “repeatable solution,” meaning that the well-defined steps always work the same way no matter what new habit or skill you are trying to master. That includes feeling good about yourself. Within PerfectCoaches, you might consider adding a sentence like, “I strive to be a good person” to your answer to the question what do I do. Or, you can add, “I will be happy and feel good about myself” to the description of where you are going.
To feel good about yourself, strive to find meaning in what you do. You are the person who ultimately acts in a situation. PerfectCoaches can help you take the actions you want to take because you are committed to becoming the person you want to be.
To thank life by feeling good about yourself, it helps to bear in mind that your core self, the animating force in your day-to-day life, is somewhat akin to the concept of a soul, which Merriam Webster defines as the immaterial essence, animating principle, or actuating cause of an individual life. Although the PerfectCoaches concept of core self does not imply the existence of an immortal soul, the PerfectCoaches emphasis on self-awareness can help in the search for purpose in life. To answer the question where am I going is to begin to discover meaning and purpose in your life.
Today, and throughout history, people have turned to religion to find meaning in the world and in their lives. PerfectCoaches can be useful to anyone of any faith, or no faith at all. Yet, interestingly, it would be possible to use PerfectCoaches as a way to master basic habits endorsed by religions and philosophies. Examples include the Ten Commandments of the Old Testament, Christ’s Sermon on the Mount, the Five Pillars of Islam, Buddha’s Eight-fold Path, The Ten Disciplines of Hinduism, even the admonitions contained in the eighty one verses of Lao-Tso’s Tao Tee Ching.
Individuals deeply immersed in the subtleties and mysteries of those beliefs might not agree that habits play an important role in their faith. The practice of deep thought is common to most of them, however. Meditation, often suggested as a way to relax and feel better, can also be a tool for finding meaning. However, as mentioned earlier, there is a whole range of options for using the technique. They range from very elaborate, formal rituals to “just take five minutes out of your day to close your eyes and breathe."
Sometimes it is possible to focus on a personal brand or signature skill as a way to find purpose in life. Your brand is who you are as seen by others. It is your image, your persona either in your professional life or in the networks and groups that you are part of. A signature skill, similarly, is the thing you do so well that when others think of that skill, they think of you. People talk about their signature drink or signature fragrance, meaning that the drink or fragrance is a kind of trademark for them. The renowned dancer Mikhail Baryshnikov said, “When I see people on the street, I look at how they walk. It's like a signature, a fingerprint.” The way you learn, the way you work with others, the way you persist and get things done—these can all become your signature skills.
Practice these 8 strategies to help you feel good about yourself without making any comparisons.
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